If your dating relationship feels joyous and healthy, if both of you feel the Lord’s approval of your decision to marry, then the relationship “works,” and you marry. Both in my church callings and in my profession as a clinical psychologist, I have worked with people who cannot accept breaking up as a healthy part of the selection process of courtship.
However, many people assume there a third alternative and try to keep the relationship alive when all signs of vitality have ceased.
By developing and exercising compassion, a person can—without unpleasantness or emotional devastation—end a dating relationship that needs to end, and turn the experience into an important step toward developing another relationship that result in marriage.
Sometimes it’s better for two people not to marry each other.
You become afraid to say what you honestly feel and think.The biggest factor in determining the outcome of a relationship is following the inspiration of the Lord.If your association seems to pull you away from God, away from righteousness, away from prayer and scriptures, you need to evaluate its influence.But feeling obligated, feeling bound, is more than making the adjustments needed for a relationship to work.Things you should freely want to do for the other person become tasks you do only because you are expected to do them.